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  • Know Your Power, the social marketing campaign, has created a series of images that capture tension-filled scenes designed to raise awareness of situations in which harassment, stalking, sexual violence or rape have occurred. Photograph courtesy Prevention Innovations
  • Know Your Power, the social marketing campaign, has created a series of images that capture tension-filled scenes designed to raise awareness of situations in which harassment, stalking, sexual violence or rape have occurred. Photograph courtesy Prevention Innovations
  • Know Your Power, the social marketing campaign, has created a series of images that capture tension-filled scenes designed to raise awareness of situations in which harassment, stalking, sexual violence or rape have occurred. Photograph courtesy Prevention Innovations

It takes a community effort to prevent gender violence.
 


When we think of violence against women, we typically think of victims and perpetrators. That may be accurate in a specific case, but to address the broader issue of gender violence—a phenomenon that crosses borders and cultures—we need to focus on the community at large.

SLAP: Empowering Women,Combating Gender Violence

SLAP conducts self-defense workshops for girls and women of all ages and professions. Photograph courtesy SLAP

Like people in India and around the world, Mriganka Dadwal was deeply shocked by the “Nirbhaya” gang rape case in New Delhi in 2012. But unlike others, she decided to launch a program to protect and empower Indian women through a new initiative—the Street Level Awareness Program or SLAP.

“We wanted to go beyond candle marches and Facebook activism and do something practical to change the face of our city scarred with rapes, assaults and public harassment of women,” says Dadwal. She is an alumna of the U.S. State Department’s International Visitor Leadership Program and traveled to the United States in March 2014 for a program related to the theme, Combating Gender-Based Violence.

Since its founding in 2013, SLAP has conducted dozens of workshops in several cities—New Delhi, Mumbai, Kolkata and Chennai—for people ranging from business professionals to college students and housewives. Dadwal is also planning to extend the program’s reach by establishing SLAP clubs in schools, colleges and smaller communities.

SLAP has three self-defense trainers and a counselor, along with a large number of volunteers. Initially, SLAP conducted open workshops with 100 or more participants, which helped raise public awareness, but was limited in benefiting the women themselves, says Dadwal. “So we opted for smaller groups of 25 to 30 participants, where everyone could get personalized attention.” SLAP seeks to empower women both physically and psychologically. Dadwal cites the example of women who have endured groping or lewd comments on public transport, but were afraid to protest.

In the workshops, she says, “We throw open these kind of situations and when they get support from other women, they walk out confident to take a stand the next time it happens. Even better things happen when men stand up impromptu and say they are sorry or ashamed that this happened in their city.”

Dadwal and the SLAP trainers take a very practical view of the effectiveness of their training by running through a checklist for every participant:

  • Do you have emergency contacts on your mobile speed dial?
  • Have you downloaded an emergency, lifesaving app on your phone?
  • Do you carry pepper spray?
  • Have you learned basic self-defense?
  • Do you have a plan if you find yourself in trouble?

“While we have been able to break the ‘these things happen to other women, not me’ mindset,” says Dadwal, “it is still difficult for many women to act on that realization.”

—H.C.

That’s the founding principle for an innovative program to combat gender violence at the University of New Hampshire that has drawn attention across the United States. It is called Bringing in the Bystander and features an associated social marketing campaign called Know Your Power.

 

Bystanders

The Bystander program was created by Prevention Innovations, a research, training and advocacy organization founded at the University of New Hampshire in 2006. Its co-director is Jane Stapleton, who first became involved in gender violence issues after a case of gang rape on the campus in 1987. The assailants received minor sentences, the victim dropped out of school and disappeared.

“It was such a different time,” Stapleton recalls. “We didn’t even have words like date rape or acquaintance rape. I changed my graduate studies to focus on gender equality and violence issues.”

Today, Stapleton’s work draws upon those experiences and upon years of extensive research in the causes and prevention of gender violence. 

“The field now has shifted from attempting to end the problem of assaults on campus by just talking with women about how to stay safe and asking men not to rape,” says Stapleton. “Bystander intervention is different. Women are not approached as potential victims nor men as potential perpetrators. Instead, we use a community approach to prevention, where everyone has a role to play in ending sexual violence and stalking.”

Prevention Innovations, which include university experts in sociology, psychology, social work, law and women’s studies, has developed a variety of programs for dealing with violence against women. Equally important, in this context, is that they have also rigorously evaluated the programs.

“What’s unique about our work is the research we conduct on the effectiveness of our program,” Stapleton says. “Everything is based on evidence-based research.”

Many of the best practices derived from that research have been formulated into a series of training modules sold to colleges and other organizations throughout the United States.

“The Bystander program uses a public health model—that violence can be identified and prevented,” says Stapleton. 

In workshops that can last 90 minutes or half a day, participants learn the concept of bystander intervention and how to make a decision to intervene in a case of sexual assault before, during and after an incident. The workshops, which consist of discussion, group exercises and role-playing, are designed to empower participants with the confidence to act when necessary, while remaining safe themselves, to aid victims. In this way, participants are trained to be part of a larger process of community change in which gender violence is unacceptable.

 

Know your power

The social marketing effort, Know Your Power, has created a series of images that capture difficult and tension-filled scenes designed to raise awareness of situations in which harassment, stalking, sexual violence or rape have occurred. The images, which number more than 20, come in every possible format—web photos, screen pop-ups, postcards, bookmarks, posters and even bus ads. 

In an age of branding, especially for young people, the campaign slogans—“Know Your Power. Step In, Speak Up. As A Bystander You Can Make A Difference.”—can also be placed on items like water bottles, buttons, gym bags and flashlights. 

In an online video, Stapleton says, “We work with communities to adapt and modify the campaign…So, it’s a collaboration from the very onset of the project. We really find out who the target is. What things are important to them? What do they look like? What is the language they use? What are the examples of a problem that resonates most with them?”

From Stapleton’s perspective, the evidence is clear that an approach like the Bystander program can raise awareness of the issue of gender violence among participants and increase their willingness to intervene in situations of actual or potential violence. 

The key is to understand that someone in such a situation is not alone, but part of a much larger, caring community determined to end violence against women, and the attitudes that allow it to exist.

 
 

Howard Cincotta is a freelance writer living in Virginia.
 


 

 

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हॉवर्ड सिनकोटा जी, आपका प्रयास बहुत ही काबिलेतारीफ है. आपके विचार सराहनीय है. आज के युग में नारी के प्रति हिंसा चिता का विषय है. हरेक देश में बड़े बड़े कानून बनाये जाते है नारी के प्रति हो रहे अत्याचारों को रोकने के लिए, फिर भी दिल दहलादेने वाली घटनाये होती रहती है. जब तक स्वय नारी खामोशी नहीं तोड़ेगी तब तक बदलाव की उम्मीद नहीं की जा सकती. मैं बहिन बेटियो को यकीन से कह सकता हूँ कि अगर किसी ने आप को गलत नजर से देखा और ऐसी वैसी हरकत की तो तुरंत एक थप्पड़ जड़ दो, वहा पर जितने ही लोग खड़े रहेंगे उस मनचले को ऐसी धुलाई करेंगे की चलने लायक नहीं रहेगा, आप अकेले नहीं है आप के साथ पूरी दुनिया है बस देर है आप की खामोशी तोड़ने की, कोई भी आप के साथ ज्यादती करे एक आवाज उठा दो आप का साथ देने वालो की लाइन लग जाएगी, कुछ भी गलत सहन मत करो आप के पास हो रही छोटी छोटी घटनाओ पर नजर रखो अगर आप को लगे यहाँ गलत हो रहा है तुरत आवाज उठा दो, खुद को कभी अकेला मत समझो.

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آج کے دور میں جب تعلیمی بیداری میں اضافہ ہوتا جا رہا ہے، اسکولوں اورکالجوں کی تعداد بڑھتی جار ہی ہے، صنفی تشدد میں بھی اضافہ واقعی ہمارے سماج کے لئے ایک ناسور سا بنتا جا رہا ہے۔ ایسی صورتحال میں مختلف تنظیموں جیسے پری وینشن اننو ویشن کا سامنے آنا اور تعلیمی اداروں اور دوسری جگہوں پر خواتین کے خلاف تشدد کی روک تھام کے لئے بیداری پیدا کرنا واقعی ایک قابل ستائش قدم ہے۔ ضرورت اس بات کی ہے کہ صنفی تشدد کے خلاف سماج کی ہر سطح پربیداری میں مزید اضافہ کیا جائے۔ یہ صرف اسٹریٹ لیول ایویئر نیس پروگرام (سلیپ) اور پری وینشن اننوویشن جیسی تنظیموں کی ہی ذمہ داری نہیں ہے بلکہ ہر اس شخص کو اس کے خلاف آواز اٹھانی پڑے گی اور اس کے خلاف کارروائی کرنی پڑے گی جو بھی عورتوں کے خلاف تشدد کے واقعات کو دیکھتے ہیں ۔ یہی نہیں بلکہ اس بات کا بھی خیال رکھنے کی ضرورت ہے کہ اس طرح کے واقعے کو وقوع ہونے سے پہلے ہی روک دیا جائے۔
میرے خیال میں اس سے بڑھ کر اس بات پر توجہ مرکوز کرنے کی ضرورت ہے کہ صنفی تشدد کے واقعات پیش آتے ہی کیوں ہیں۔ وہ کون سے اسباب ہیں جو اس طرح کے واقعات کو انجام دینے کی وجہ بنتے ہیں؟ اور اس حقیقت سے کوئی انکار نہیں کر سکتا ہے کہ اس کے لئے ذہنیت کو بدلنے کی ضرورت ہے، اپنے اپنے علاقے اور خطے کے حساب سے سماجی اقدار پر توجہ اور اسے برقرار رکھنے کی ضرورت ہے ۔ اس کے علاوہ صنفی تشدد کے متاثرین کوہر قدم پر ہمت اور حوصلہ دینے کی ضرورت ہے تاکہ متاثرین واقعے سے ٹوٹ نہ جائیں بلکہ اپنی زندگی کو سنوارنےکی کوشش کریں اور صنفی تشدد کی روک تھام کا ذریعہ بنیں۔ اور ہم سب کو اس حقیقت کو فراموش نہیں کرنا چاہئے کہ صنفی تشدد کی روک تھام کے لئے انفرادی نہیں بلکہ اجتماعی کوشش کی ضرورت ہے۔

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Trivial as it may sound, crux of the matter is abject apathy that, unfortunately, becomes the guiding emotion in situations as these. Warped in our own world, as it were, distancing ourselves in situations or conditions that do not involve or affect us directly comes as easily to us as water off a duck’s back. Thus, community sensitization has to begin by inculcating a sense of responsibility. Unless a change comes over our collective mindset, piecemeal interventions cannot bring long term solutions. Starting off with gender sensitization lessons or life skills in schools can be a good starting point as it aids in impacting a generation’s mindset. Another thing of moot importance is cooperation from authorities and officials who matter, in such circumstances. Often it has been seen that fear of harassment from authorities prevents one from stepping out and lending a helping hand to a victim of violence. A hassle free process of official intervention can encourage many people to come out of the comfort zone and be more pro-active.

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हॉवर्ड सिनकोटा जी, आप का जज्बा मिल का पत्थर साबित हो सकता है जब हौसले बुलंद हो तो राहे आसान हो जाती है. इसलिए महिलाओं के खिलाफ हिंसा को रोकने के लिए सामुदायिक प्रयास महत्वपूर्ण है. इस में हर वर्ग को आगे आना होगा, तभी इस हिंसा से छुटकारा पाया जा सकता है. गैंगरेप, छेड़छाड़, पीछा करना, फब्तियां कसना, बलात्कार की बढ़ती घटनाये चिंता का विषय है. ऐसी घटनाओं को रोकने के लिए युवा वर्ग को सबसे जयादा अपनी भागीदारी निभानी होगी. आप के आस पास हो रही ऐसी घटनाओं की जानकारी तुरंत पुलिस कंट्रोल रूम में दे और जैसा की हॉवर्ड सिनकोटा जी ने बताया बहुत सारे संग़ठन इस छेत्र में काम करते है उन को अवगत कराये, हाल ही में हुई उत्तरप्रदेश में दो बहनो की घटना ने देश को हिला के रख दिया था देश में गैंगरेप, छेड़छाड़, पीछा करना, फब्तियां कसना, बलात्कार के गुनगारो को सजा दिलाने के लिए कितनी जिंदगियो को बलि चढ़ना पड़ेगा देहली में हुई घटना के बाद सख्त कानून लाया गया था लेकिन सख्ती से लागु नहीं हुआ उस समय लगा की इस पर लगाम लग जायेगा लेकिन सिस्टम में कोई चेंज नहीं हुआ वैसी ही घटनाये रोज देखने को मिलती है क्या सब ऐसा ही चलता रहेगा, मुझे लगता है अब समय आ गया है खुद की ख़ामोशी तोड़ने का, एक से शुरू होकर कारवाँ बनाना होगा और आस पास की जनता को जागरूक करना पड़ेगा, खुद की ताकत को पहचानना होगा जिस से हम नारी के साथ हो रहे अत्याचार को खत्म कर सके, पुलिस प्रशासन का इस में अपनी भागीदारी अच्छे से निभानी होगी और नया कानून बनाने पर जोर देना होगा जिस में ऐसी सजा का प्रावधान हो जिसमे ऐसी हरकत करने वालो की रूह कांप जाये, जिस से आदमी ऐसी हरकत करने से पहले हजार बार सोचेगा, में समझती हु जब तक डर पैदा नहीं होगा तब तक ऐसी घटनाओ पर रोक नहीं लगेगी, जब ऐसे मामले मीडिया में आते है तो तुरंत एक्शन होता है लेकिन दिन में ऐसी हजारो वारदाते होती है जिस में F.I.R. तक नहीं लिखी जाती, उस को लिखवाने के लिए थाने की घेरा बंदी करनी पड़ती है भारत का कानून इतना लचीला है जिस का हर कोई फायदा उठता है इसलिए आप को कही पर भी ऐसी हरकत करते कोई नजर आये तो तुरत अपनी ख़ामोशी तोड़े, आप की बुलंद आवाज उस दरिंदे को पस्त कर सकती है तमासबीन मत बने तथा ऐसी घटनाओ पर रोक लगाने के लिए सख्त कानून लाना होगा और फ़ास्ट ट्रक कोर्ट में ऐसे मामलो को चलाया जाये ताकि जो औरत इस दहनीय स्थिति से गुजरी है उसे इस मानसिक प्रताड़ना से बचाया जा सके. साथ में इन दरिन्दो को मोत की सजा दी जाये ताकि ऐसी घिनोनी हरकत करने वालो के मन में खौफ पैदा हो, नहीं तो लोग ऐसे ही सरे आम ऐसी घटनाओ को अंजाम देते रहेंगे, और न्याय नहीं मिलने की स्थिति में पीड़िता भी भय के कारण मोत को गले लगा लेगी

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اکیسویں صدی کے اس دور میں جب کہ دنیا خلا میں بودوباش اختیار کرنے کے لئے سرگرم عمل ہے اور سائنس وٹیکنالوجی کی بدولت وہ نت نئی ایجادات کر کے لوگوں کی زندگیوں میں ایک حیرت انگیز تبدیلی لا رہی ہے، افسوس کہ اس دور میں بھی ہمارا معاشرہ کئی طرح کی پیچدگیوں، الجھنوں اور طرح طرح کے مسائل کا شکار ہے اور بلاشبہ ان میں سے ایک صنفی تشدد بھی ہے۔ تاریخ عالم کے اوراق صنفی تشدد کے بدنما دھبوں سے بھرے پڑے ہیں۔۔صنفی تشدد کی روک تھام جدید دور کا ایک زبردست چیلنج ہے۔ اقوام متحدہ نے اسی چیلنج سے نمٹنے اور صنفی تشدد کی حوصلہ شکنی کے لئے ۹۹۹۱ میں ۲۵ نومبر کو خواتین کے خلاف تشدد کی روک تھام کا عالمی دن قرار دیا ۔ صرف ہندوستان ہی نہیں بلکہ دنیا بھر میں خواتین تشدد سے نبردآزما ہیں۔۱۹۵۰ میں امریکی ریاست ٹینسی وہ پہلی ریاست تھی جہاں خواتین کے خلاف تشدد پر باضابطہ ایک قانون بنایا گیا۔۱۹۷۰ کی دہائی میں عورتوں کے حقوق اور گھریلو تشدد کے حوالہ سے باقاعدہ طور پر آواز بلند کی گئی اور فیمنزم کو بطور اصطلاح استعمال کیا گیا۔قومی اور عالمی سطح پر بہت سے قوانین بنائے گئے، مگر ان قوانین سے آگاہی نہ ہونے اور ان کا معاشترتی رویوں سے ہم آہنگ نہ ہونے کی وجہ سے ہندوستان اور دیگر ملکوں میں خواتین کے خلاف تشدد بدستور جاری ہیں۔صنفی تشدد کی روک تھام کے لئے انفرادی کوششوں کے ساتھ ساتھ اجتماعی کوششیں کئے جانے کی اشد ضرورت ہے اور اس کی ابتدا ہر ایک کو پہلے اپنے گھر، خاندان، رشتہ دار، احباب اور پڑوسیوں سے کی جانی چاہئے۔ اگر کہیں صنفی تشدد کا کوئی واقعہ رونما ہوتا ہے تو اس کی فوراً دل شکنی کی جانی چاہئے اور اس کے خلاف سخت ترین کارروائی کی جانی چاہئے۔ مزید یہ کہ اس تعلق سے لوگوں کی ذہنیت بھی بدلنے کی سخت ضرورت ہے۔

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An African proverb says: “It takes a village to raise a child.” Similarly “It takes a community to end violence against women.”
Preventing gender violence and protecting survivors requires the involvement of the entire society because this issue requires collective contribution. A few isolated acts on part of state cannot change the ground realities until and unless the community itself is determined to bring about a change in their perspective and how they envisage such acts. An idea becomes a revolution when it gets the support of the community and its people. Showing Zero tolerance towards such acts,Raising Awareness, providing support to victims can contribute a lot in the long run.

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जब तक हम खुद की खामोसी नहीं तोड़ेंगे तब तक बदलाव शम्भव नहीं है
हॉवर्ड सिनकोटा जी आप का प्रयाश कबीले तारीफ है हमें मिल जुल कर इस विपति से लड़ना होगा हर एक को आगे आना होगा तभी नीच परवर्ती के लोगो पर लगाम लग सकती है

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اندھیرے سے اجالے کی جانب پیش قدمی
آپ کی میگزین کا سلوگنBridging US-India Relation ہند پاک تعلقات کے درمیان پل کا کام کرنے کی خواہش کو اس مضمون کے ذریعہ بخوبی عملی شکل دینے کی کوشش کی ہے۔ نہ صرف اسپین بلکہ ہاورڈ سنکوٹا نے اپنی اس خصوصی پیش کش کے سبب قابل تعریف کام کیا ہے۔ عورت پرظلم کیسےختم ہو، یہ سوال سول سوسائٹی میں اکثر اٹھتا رہا ہے لیکن اپنے مضمون کے ذریعہ اسپین نے دنیا کے دو سب سے بڑے جمہوری ممالک میں اس بحث اور اس کے ذریعہ بیداری مہم کو تازہ کر قابل تحسین خدمت انجام دی ہے۔
عام طور پر تمام ہی معاشروں میں صنفی تشدد کے پیچھے غالباً تین بنیادی نظریات وتصورات کارفرما ہیں۔
• معاشرتی اعتبار سے عورت کمتر ہے
• مرد کی شہوانی خواہش کے پیش نظر ہر ممکن طریقہ سے عورت کا استحصال کیا جاسکتا ہے۔
• خاندان کی عزت مقدم ہے، لہذا غیرت کے نام پر عورت پر تمام طرح کی بندشیں لگائی جا سکتی ہیں۔
درج بالا نظریات وتصورات کی روشنی میں دیکھا جائے تو صنفی تشدد کے معاملے قدیم زمانے سے ہی ہیں۔یونانی تاریخ میں مرد نے عورت کو صرف اپنی نفسانی تسکین و مسرت کا ذریعہ اور آلہ کار سمجھا۔ یونانیوں کے نزدیک عورت “ شجرۃ مسمومۃ “ ایک زہر آلود درخت اور “ رجس من عمل الشیطان “ کے مطابق عورت شیطان سے زیادہ ناپاک سمجھی جاتی تھی۔ رومن قانون آج بھی دنیا کے مختلف ممالک کے قوانین کا سنگِ بنیاد ہے۔ اس اعلیٰ ترین قانون میں عورت کی حیثیت پست و کمزور تھی اور ان کا عقیدہ تھا کہ عورت کے لئے کوئی روح نہیں بلکہ وہ عذاب کی صورتوں میں سے ایک صورت ہے۔ عورت شادی کے بعد شوہر کی زرخرید غلام ہو جاتی تھی۔
جس موجودہ صورتحال کا خاکہ مضمون میں پیش کیا گیا ہے وہ ہند اور امریکہ کے سماج کے سوچنے سمجھنے والوں کو نہ صرف تشویش میں مبتلا کررہی ہے بلکہ مستقبل قریب کے حالات کی بھی ایک منفی تصویر پیش کرتی ہے۔
لیکن جس تبدیلی کے آغاز کی بات دونوں سماجوں میں ان رپورٹوں کے ذریعہ بتائی گئی ہے وہ ان منفی حالات میں میں نئی روشنی کی جانب لے جانے والے اقدام ہیں۔ اور اس کے لئے دونو سماجوں کے سرکردہ افراد کو اٹھ کھڑے ہوجانا چاہیے، اور میڈیا کو عوام کو بیدار کرنے کی اس مہم میں اہم ذمہ داری نبھانے میں اپنا بھر پور تعاون دینا چاہئے جیسا کہ اسپین پہلے سے ہی کر رہا ہے۔
ایک بار اس شاندار مضومن کے لئے اسپین اور اس کی پوری ٹیم کا شکریہ

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Gender based violence as an issue affects all societies the world over. Primarily, it is not just a 'women's' problem since men can too be victims of gender based violence. A wonderful campaign initiated by The United Nations 'HeforShe' says it all. Gender based violence could be seen from the prism of structural violence since its roots lie deeper into cultural and religious forces that govern our life. To address such a deep-rooted problem, women cannot be the only stakeholders. Others and their participation is significant too. These can be identified as - men, civil society, media, state etc. An interface between family, religion and education, all three of which lie at the heart of a community can be evolved to address this issue in an innovative way. We need to strike gender based violence at its roots and eliminate it from where it begins to operate. This cannot be achieved without the help and involvement of the community since any examination of gender based violence only through the prism of an individual is flawed. Any change that can claim to be sustainable has to come from within. It has to be rooted so strongly that generations after generations imbibe it and practice it. If we leave out the community from under the purview of gender based violence and solutions related to it, then we are only talking of a solution restricted to the 'armchair'. We need to go beyond the armchair and undertake concrete action to address this pressing issue. The best way to actively involve the community in this is to develop linkages between religion, education and family in a constructive way in order to give an impetus to community practices that are not bogged down by dogma, ritualistic concerns or societal pressures. The community thus can be made the biggest stakeholder in dealing with this issue, without whose involvement I see little success for isolated efforts to effectively deal with gender based violence and do justice to those whose lives it has destroyed - both men and women.

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महिलाओ को शक्ति हिंसा की रोकथाम: इस सन्दर्भ मैं महिलाओ के न केवल शारीरिक कौशल की बात हो रही है अपितु उनके नैतिक सामजिक और आर्थिक पहलुओ का भी समावेशन अनिवार्य है | २०१२ में हुए निर्भया काण्ड ने पूरे हिन्दुस्तान को हिला कर रख दिया था और उसके बाद हुए मीडिया कैंपेन ने सभी भारत वासियों को इस संवेदन शील मुद्दे पर एक कर दिया था | परन्तु एक बात मीडिया से छूट गई थी वो ये की उस भयंकर काण्ड के वक्त निर्भया के मित्र ने हिम्मत नहीं खोई थी और अत्यंत विषम परिस्थितियों के बावजूद अपनी मित्र का साथ नहीं छोड़ा था | उसे समय मीडिया ने निर्भया को 'निडर' 'बहादुर' 'वीर आदि अनेक अलंकरण दिए थे परन्तु उसके मित्र (लड़के) के द्वारा किये गए साहसिक कार्य (उन गुंडों का विरोध और निर्भया की मदद) को मीडिया ने कहीं स्थान नहीं दिया था | अगर उस समय उसके मित्र को भी 'मदद का फरिश्ता' 'रखवाला' 'सच्चा दोस्त' आदि उपनामों से अलंकृत किया जाता तो आज उस से प्रेरणा ले कर सैंकड़ो हाथ मदद के लिए उठ खड़े होते | अभी भी देर नहीं हुई है महिला ससक्तिकरण के केवल नारो से काम न लेकर समग्र समाज को इससे जोड़ना होगा | ऑफिस में समितियां बना कर, स्कूल मैं स्काउट न गाइड और एनसीसी के मदद से, मोहल्ले में मोहल्ला सभा बना कर, गावो में पंचायत समिति बना कर, महिलाओं और युवतियों के आत्मरक्षा के ट्रेनिंग के लिए तैयार किया जा सकता है | पुरुषो को सेमीनार और चर्चाओ मैं हिस्सा लेना चाहिए की महिलाओ के सम्मान के रक्षा क्यों और कैसे? इस विषय मैं युवाओं को आगे आना पड़ेगा और स्त्री सम्मान के विषय को मुखरता से उठाना पड़ेगा | कई स्वयंसेवी संगठन इन प्रकल्पों से जुड़कर 'खामोश ना रहे' प्रकल्प को आंदोलन बना सकते है |

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صنفی تشدد ہمارے سماج میں پایا جانے والا ایک بد نما داغ ہے۔ ہمارے سماج کو اس دھبہ سے محفوظ رکھنے کے لئے ضروری ہے کہ ہم مل جل کر یعنی اجتماعی طریقے سے اس صنفی تشدد کو ختم کرنے کی کوشش کریں۔ ہمیں خواتین کے خلاف ہونے والے تشدد کی ہر سطح پر مخالفت کرنی چاہئے۔ جہاں بھی ہم اس طرح کے واقعے کو ہوتے دیکھیں، ضروری ہے کہ ہم اس کے خلاف آواز اٹھائیں اور اس کے خلاف کارروائی کریں اور متاثرین کی ہر طور پر امداد کریں۔
اسکول، کالج، عوامی جگہ اور دیگر مقامات پر صنفی تشدد کے خلاف بیداری پھیلانے کی ضرورت ہے۔ اس کے ساتھ ہی بچیوں اور لڑکیوں کو اس تشدد کے خلاف آواز اٹھانے اور لڑنے کی تربیت دینا بھی ضروری ہے۔

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Gender based violence is a serious issue existing all over the world especially in societies where it has been ruled by male heirarchies. It gives easy access to inflict disriminations and injustice on women who have been subjugated by conditioned male dominance. But in some societies where females are the dominant gender [very few], the males have taken the burnt of discriminations. Hence its not just affecting the female gender but also men to some extent. In any case, we need to sensitise these issues in the name of humanity. Besides the family which is the single most influential institution in the early stage of a person's life, the society comes in next with a whole lot of community responsibility. We need to influence the family through information, counselling and guidance on a basic level. Alternatively, these should be done on a very big scale when it comes to community or society transformations. We need to get rid of certain preconditioned male importance when it comes to family's preoccupation with the male child as an heir to their lineage. Once this is erased, there is an equal treatment to both the genders. This family change eventually gets transformed and extends to the society in the long run. Whenever, we see a woman or a girl being harassed on the streets or being a victim of sexual crime in offices, its upto the women to fight it out and her friends or family should support her at every step. But lets not undermine the importance of bystanders or strangers who can play an equally important role in dealing with gender violence. Schools, Colleges, Media, Family,Society, NGOs, Spiritual discourses all help in overcoming this gender discrimination and violence enabling the community to coexist in a fair way. We need to love both the genders - each one is important to the other. Right ?

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हावर्ड सिनकोटा जी , आपके जज्बों मैं सलाम करता हू नारी सर्वत्र पूजयते की प्रसिगता कही खोई गई है दिन प्रति दिन आज महिलाओ पर होने वाले अत्याचार घरेलू से लेकर कार्यसथल बढ़ रहा है इनपर होने वाले अपराध को रोकने के लिए विश्व के सभी समुदाय को एक साथ जनांदोलन के द्वारा महिलाओ के साथ कदम से कदम मिला कर चलने की जरुरत है और इस असमानता की खाई को खत्म करने के लिए समाज मैं एक अवेयरनेस और लोगो के माइंड सेट को बदलने की जरुरत है और लिंगानुपात भूढ़ हत्या जैसे ख़तम करने लिए हमें अपने घर से सुरुआत करनी चाहिए और इनको सामाजिक न बांधकर एक ऐसा माहोल तैयार करने चाहिए जिससे वह खुद को आज़ाद महसूस कर सके और इन सब मैं जिम्मेदार नागरिक की तरह गोवेर्मेंट प्रशासनिक लोगो भगीदारी सुनिश्चित करनी चाहिए !

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It takes a team to get any work done and the same can be said about gender based violence. Gender based crimes have long been a part of our country, with the government, for the most part, either criticizing the victim or turning a deaf ear to their pleas. I agree that there needs to be a total change of mindset but most importantly, any relationship with a woman is reflected in one's relationship with one's mother. How can you change the mindset of a 55 year old man who has been brought up to disrespect women all his life? A mother is a child's first teacher. If a man has been brought up to respect his mother and if she has brought him up to respect other women, he will grow up to be a man who will stand up for women's rights. If change should take place, it should start at the earliest--when a person is at an age of influence.
A collective effort should be made by the community to take up women's issues seriously. These issues are rarely, if ever, taken seriously in our country. The way women are depicted in this country also matters a lot. The depiction of women in Bollywood as sex objects and item girls sends a wrong message to all future perpretors about women. Most of them have no idea about women and what they are like and these misguided souls look to movies or any other outlet to give them an idea. When such movies are made which demean women or show them in a poor light, it only reflects on our mindset as a society and increases the chances of crimes taking place against women. The way women are portrayed in media is a very important factor. I quote actress Geena Davis here:-“Women are seriously under-represented across nearly all sectors of society around the globe, not just on-screen, but for the most part we’re simply not aware of the extent. And media images exert a powerful influence in creating and perpetuating our unconscious biases. However, media images can also have a very positive impact on our perceptions. In the time it takes to make a movie, we can change what the future looks like. There are woefully few women CEOs in the world, but there can be lots of them in films. How do we encourage a lot more girls to pursue science, technology and engineering careers? By casting droves of women in STEM, politics, law, and other professions today in movies.”

Lately, women have taken to speaking out against the injustice meted out to them and that's a great change in the right direction and in the best interest of our country since when we speak out, we create more awareness about a topic that all of our politicians would like to ignore. We are having discussions about this on every platform and it shows that as a society, we wish to put an end to this social evil that has been plaguing our society for ages. Creating awareness about this social ill is a step in the right direction. Most importantly, being the change, more than campaigning for change , is what truly makes the difference! It's not enough to talk the talk but also to walk the talk!

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To prevent gender violence we should first change our mindset that no one is inferior and no one is superior.Both male and female are equal.We have to stop dowry in any form.Old age people are the ones who need to understand that this world has changed.They should be counselled by educating them that female can do anything if they get opportunity.Girls should understand that they have to stand on their own foot,don't depend on brother or family,do what ever they want to do,take any course or degree without thinking what society will tell.Make them believe that no profession is specific for male, girls can be civil,mechanical Engineer,army head etc.It is the responsibility of parents that, right from very childhood both boy and girl are treated equally because that is the time when child develop their mind sets.

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Its all about the need to talk. The talk with parents, friends. So that we'll get the best result out in our hands.

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Gender violence the most common word in today's world , but unfortunately misunderstood by many. It is taken by everybody that if we want to mark a full stop on gender violence we should let everybody do what ever they want whether good or bad . And this mind set is the major cause of gender violence, it doesn't maters us at all what others are doing, whether it is good or bad for society? will it harm any strata or section of society ? We just say it is democracy every body has right to do anything what ever they want who are we to assist. This is only the root cause of any type of problem. The society culture and feeling of oneness is getting degraded. We don't want to interact with society just want to see ourselves at good place, earn huge amount of money at any cost. Ethics and good manners are of no use in today's world. until a miss happening happen with us we don't consider that a miss-happening. So, if we want to change current scenario we must have to change this mind set we must arise the feeling of oneness we all must become bold and wise enough to differentiate between right and wrong and most importantly we must understand everybody has got some talent and we must use that talent in positive direction and we must not stop anyone whether a man or a woman from showing there talent we must give them equal opportunities and this doesn't means giving reserved seats 50-50%. From that i mean if woman are good doctors then there they must be allowed to make 60 women 40 men ratio or greater through there talent and if men are good engineers then there through there talent they must be allowed to make 60 men 40 women ratio or greater.
Best said by M K Gandhi "Be the change that you want to see in the world".
so lets take a step for a safer and brighter future.

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बहुत खूब सिनकोटा जी , आपका यह लेख एक ऐसे मुद्दे पर है जिस मुद्दे पर पूरे विश्व को ध्यान देने की जरूरत है...विशेषतौर पर भारत को तो इसकी सख्त जरूरत है (क्योंकि में एक भारतीय हूँ और मुझे भारत की स्थिति मालूम है ) | बहुत दर्द होता है जब निर्भया जैसी घटनाएँ सुनने को मिलती है , निर्भया की घटना तो राजधानी दिल्ली में थी उस वजह से इस घटना ने इतना तूल पकड़ा , परन्तु देश में कही छोटी छोटी जगहों पर ऐसी घटनाये प्रतिदिन देखने को मिलती है...खैर ये समय दर्द जताने का नहीं वरन कुछ करने का है , आज इस विश्व को उन नौजवान (लड़के और लड़कियाँ) की जरुरत है जो की इस तरह की समस्याओं को गंभीरता से ले भले ही ही वो पढ़ा -लिखा हो या न हो , ऐसो की कतई नहीं जो मजाक में टाले और बोले की ये तो देश में रोज का काम है...कतई नहीं |
मेरे विचार में इस प्रकार की घटनाओ को रोकने के लिए लोगों को मानसिक रूप से दृढ़ रहना होगा विशेष कर छोटे कस्बो और गाँवो में लोगों को कानून के बारे में बताना होगा जिससे की उनमे ऐसी घटनाओ से निपटने के लिए आत्मविश्वास आये और ये जनजागृति से संभव है इसके साथ ही सरकार को ऐसे काम करने वाले दरिंदो के खिलाफ सख्त कानून बनाकर उनको प्रयोग में लाएं जिससे बाकि ऐसे काम करने के पहले हज़ार बार सोचे | समितियां बनायीं जाये उनके माध्यम से ज्यादा से ज्यादा लोगो को इनसे जोड़े उनको जिम्मेदारी सौंपे गली मोहल्लो विद्यालयों में नुक्कड़ नाटक दिखाए जाये पोस्टर लगाये , देश के सर्वोच्च तकनिकी संस्थानों को भी उनसे जोड़े जिससे की कॉलेजो में पड़ रहे छात्र तकनिकी माध्यम से इसमें सहयोग कर सके
लोग इस तरह के सामाजिक बदलावों के बारे में बहुत से लेख पढ़ते है समाचार पत्रो में पढ़ते है और उन दो पलो में उनमे जोश भर जाता है की मुझे भी अपने समाज के लिए कुछ करना चाहिए लेकिन कुछ ही क्षणों में वो जोश गायब हो जाता है हमें ऐसा वातावरण तैयार करना है जिससे वो जोश वो कुछ करने की उम्मीद हमेशा कायम रहे और लोग इस तरह के नेक कार्यो में हमेशा अपनी भागीदारी देते रहे धन्यवाद !

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Gender Violence is curse on Humanity although we can say its related to family issue or personal matter but the Roots are in the community because such orthodox illiterate un acceptable thoughts/ feelings are cultivated during a persons upbringing from his childhood to adulthood based on the inputs from community. Therefore community efforts is the starting and decisive point to eradicate gender violence.

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..........................खामोश दर्शक न बने रहें.................................
...............................लेखिका: स्वाति शर्मा......................
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दुनिया में हर समय एक बलात्कार हो रहा है दुनिया के हर कोने में कोई न कोई दामिनी दम तोड़ रही है कोई भी मीडिया,इंसान,यहाँ तक की खुद भगवान भी उन दरिन्दों के आगे बेबस है क्यों? क्योंकि हम दर्शक खुद बन बैठे है और ख़ामोशी से अपनी बर्बादी का मंजर देख रहे है और हमारी आँखों के सामने इंसानी भेड़िये हैवानियत का नंगा नाच करते चले जा रहे है| एक तितली का बच्चा भी अंडे से निकलने की जद्दोजहद खुद करता है बेशक यह उसके लिए तकलीफ़देह है और इसमे वह अपने पूरी ताकत लगा देता है लेकिन इसके कारण ही उसके पंखों में उड़ने की ताकत आती है| कुदरत का नियम यही नियम है कि पहल आपको खुद को करनी होगी|
उत्तरप्रदेश में एक लड़की 9 साल तक अपने पिता रामशरण और अपने भाई राहुल की हवस का शिकार होती रही और जब उसने ये बात अपने माँ को बताई तो माँ ने समाज का डर दिखा कर उसे चुप करा दिया| आखिरकार उसे सारी बात पुलिस को बतानी पड़ी| क्या हर लड़की इस तरह अपनी आवाज नहीं उठा सकती? क्योंकि बहरों को सुनाने के लिए धमाकों की जरूरत पड़ती है|
हमारा समाज हमें हर बात पर बस यही सिखाता है कि वह मर्द है तो इस समाज से एक सवाल करिए कि क्या हर बलिदान बस औरत के लिए बना है कभी सम्मान के नाम पर तो कभी पवित्रता के नाम पर| समाज से अपेक्षा करना व्यर्थ है यदि आप अपने आप के लिए आवाज नही उठा सकती| यदि अपनी आत्मा की चीखों से आपका साहस नही जाग रहा तो किसी और का क्यों जागेगा| यदि आप खुद ही इस तमाशे को देख रहीं है तो दूसरा ताली बजाने से क्यों खुद को रोकेगा|
आज कल एक वीडियो सबके सामने आया है जिसमें दिखाया गया है कि बचपन से लड़कों को सिखाया जाता है लड़के रोते नहीं है पर अब लड़कों को ये सिखाया जाने चाहिए कि लड़के रुलाते नहीं है क्योंकि ये अगर सिखाया जाता तो आंध्रप्रदेश में गुंटूर जिले की 20 साल की छात्रा त्रिवेणी आज जिन्दा होती जिसे उसके सीनियर्स ने रैगिंग की नाम पर केमिकल पीने पर मजबूर कर दिया था|

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Posted by Mayank Sharma at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi

people should change the insecure mentality which taking India and Indians where they have started... if we the youth take initiative of change there will be no violation of gender will be seen in any community in the world. we should know that we are largest democracy in the world. if we make changes. The world will also take the initiative to get rid of the problem of gender violation.

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रोकथाम के लिये ही प्रयास होने चाहियें। यह सही कहा आपने, भारत में अक्सर भीड को दिखाने, पुरस्कार पाने के लिये, लोग बदलाव के काम को जगह देने लगते हैं। सामाजिक जागरूकता को तो सिर्फ करते जायें , एक समय में अत्यधिक प्रयासों को लोग स्वंय तरजीह देंगे।

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Posted by Zain Hashmi at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: To prevent gender violence we should first change our mindset that is no one is inferior and no one is superior.Both male and female are equal.We have to stop dowry in any form.Old age people are the ones who need to understand that this world has changed.They should be counselled by educating them that female can do anything if they get opportunity.Girls should understand that they have to stand on their own foot,don't depend on brother or family,do what ever they want to do,take any course or degree without thinking what society will tell.Make them believe that no profession is specific for male, girls can be civil,mechanical Engineer,army head etc.It is the responsibility of parents that, right from very childhood both boy and girl are treated equally because that is the time when child develop their mind sets.

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अभी हाल ही में दिनांक २५ नवंबर ,२०१४ को अमेरिकन सेंटर में सम्पन्न हुए "स्ट्रीट लेवल अवेयरनेस प्रोग्राम यानि स्लैप" के द्वारा आयोजित कार्यशाला की मैं भी एक प्रतिभागी थी । इस कार्यशाला में भाग लेने का मेरा मकसद सिर्फ इतना था कि एक महिला होने के नाते ना केवल मैं अपनी ताकत को पहचानूँ अपितु समाज में हो रहे महिलाओं के खिलाफ ज़ुर्म के लिए जिम्मेदार व्यक्तियों को उन खामोश दर्शकों के सामने पेश कर सकूँ जो कि मौन रहकर अपनी उपस्तिथिति तो लगाते हैं परन्तु उस उपस्तिथिति को एक सामुदायिक प्रयास के साथ मिलकर रोक पाने में सफ़ल नहीं हो पाते । मैं एक स्वतन्त्र लेखिका होने के नाते खुद इस कार्यक्रम को पहले भली -भाँति समझना चाहती थी और तभी इसके ऊपर कोई लेख या टिप्पणी लिख कर अपने विचार प्रकट करना चाहती थी । और वहाँ जाकर मैंने ये पाया कि ऐसे कार्यक्रमों की पहल करके हम ना केवल इस देश को सशक्त बना सकते हैं अपितु महिलाओं और पुरुषों के बीच होने वाली लैंगिक हिंसाओं को भी बहुत जल्द काबू में ला सकते हैं । वहाँ पर आई हुई मृगांका डडवाल से जब मेरी आमने-सामने मुलाक़ात हुई तब मैंने पाया कि उनके द्वारा की गई ये नई पहल बहुत ही सराहनीय है क्योंकि अपने इन्ही प्रयासों से वह नई दिल्ली में हुए "निर्भया" काण्ड को दुबारा होने से रोकने के विरूद्ध अपनी आवाज़ को बुलंद रख रही हैं । उन्होंने वहाँ पर ना केवल महिलाओं को अपनी आत्मरक्षा का प्रशिक्षण दिया बल्कि उन सभी परिस्थितियों से अवगत भी कराया जहाँ पर महिलायों को अक्सर अपनी सूझ-बूझ और साहस का परिचय देना पड़ता है । यहाँ पर हम बात कर रहे हैं "खामोश दर्शकों " की जो अनगिनत तादाद में खड़े रहकर ना केवल महिलाओं का मज़ाक उड़ाते हैं अपितु उनपर ढेरों फब्तियाँ भी कसते हैं । लैंगिक हिंसा सदियों से चली आ रही एक ऐसी परंपरा है जिसे मनुष्य तोड़ना ही नहीं चाहता बल्कि पुरुष उस हिंसा को करते वक़्त अपने अंदर एक गौरव का अनुभव भी करने लगता है । परन्तु उस हिंसा के शिकार बने उस मनुष्य की मानसिकता को अगर हम अपने अंदर अनुभव करके देखें तो हम उनके दर्द को भली-भाँति समझ सकते हैं । कहते हैं कि एक खामोशी ही ऐसे अपराधियों की गतिविधियों को और ज्यादा बढ़ावा देती है तो फिर क्यूँ नहीं हम सब एकजुट होकर ऐसे जुर्म के खिलाफ अपनी आवाज़ उठाते , और क्यूँ एक मूक दर्शक बन अपने वजूद को कहीं अंदर ही अंदर मरने देते हैं ? आज सामुदायिक प्रयासों से कई जगाहों पर ऐसी घटनायों को रोकने में सुधार आया है और साथ ही उन घटनायों को अंजाम देने वालों के मन में एक खौफ भी पैदा हुआ है । हमेशा याद रखें कि खामोशी हमारी कायरता को दर्शाती है और अपनी आवाज़ को बुलंद करके उसे औरों तक पहुँचाना हमें और ज्यादा सशक्त बनाती है ।

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Posted by Buffy Gary at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: Gender discrimination, leading to gender violence is not a biological difference. Its a stereotype still inside the minds of the common public. This is a patriarchal society that is leading to worsening in the condition of women. To prevent more violence and to improve their status, we need to increase awareness and education.

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Posted by Aas Muhammad at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: Gender inequality pushes sociaty towards many worse things such as women suffer. They dont get freedom to live their life their own way. What we can do is to take initiatives to level the participation of every individual in the sociaty. Quality and strength must be given as their identity not their gender should be considered their identity.

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Posted by Mohammad Shamim Afzal at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: community can prevent domestic violence first. there should be check on activities of boys. girls should be given due respect at home and in public. Never forget a good community will make a good nation.

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Posted by Praveen Gola at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: To prevent gender violence one must be-

1. Aware about the cause of that particular issue.

a) If its all due to manliness , then try to aware the society about the woman power.

b) If the cause is concern about some social evil i.e. dowry , giving birth to a female child etc then such evils can be stopped by taking the help of law and order.

2. A good teaching about the nature and habits of male and female can also reduce the gender violence up to some extent.

3. Some women too plays a dominating role and in that case men became a silent issue of gender violence. So in that case women should be counsel and teach that all men are not of the same nature.

4. Sometimes genetically practicism also plays an emerging role in gender violence . So in that case men should be aware about the changing thoughts in the modern life that women of today acts like a good friend of Him rather than a poor slave.

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Posted by Rudr Pratap Singh at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: baccho ko bachpan se sikhye ki aap me or ddosro me koi farak nh hai....unke baach kabhi bhi ehsas na hone de ki aap ladke hai or vo ladki.. jitni freedom boys ko hai ,utni hi girls ko de, jisse unme kbhi bhi feel nh hoga !!! mere saath hua hai aisa isiliye bata rha hu..

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Posted by Gaurav Pant at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: Gender violence can be prevented by educating the community ,strengthening social networks and emphasising public health prevention model.Framing gender violence as a social justice issue that is connected to other social problems, such as poverty, access to health care, and immigrants and women's rights will definitely strengthen advocacy efforts.

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Posted by Venkatesh Chittarvu at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: Women must be free enough to condemn and express.Unfortunately in India its either the extremes.The Feminists never seem to include Men and most times Women tend to be mute spectators and are asked to remain silent by thier own folk,Sadly.

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Posted by Ranjana Bhatnagar at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: Interaction with each other through various activities organised by the community could be a good a good method of preventing gender violence. Activities could involve healthy competions in sports and arts. Book discussions. Get-togethers. Discussions and exchange of views on specific issues.

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Posted by Ankit Shail at https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: There must be a evolution process in the basic instict of human, and this process can only endeavour by human mind only as Human mind is the centre of all powers, thinking.this the fact that the human mind controlls the human body..but regarding this particular problem, we have to learn how to control our mind, to control this type of behaviour.

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Gender violence is a curse on modern day society. In order to rid the society of this curse, there definitely has to be a collective movement where there are no bystanders. Hence, an event against women should not identify bystanders. It is the everyday action that will decide whether there are any bystanders or not. Each individual and each organization has to decide in what best manner they can contribute to promoting gender equality; for promotion of gender equality will do more good than simply a focus on prevention of gender violence. Those who are good at creating awareness about gender equality through their writings should exploit this medium; others may do so through organizing debates or street plays or paintings, photography. Similarly, organizations must adopt women-friendly measures and train them for flexibility in roles and positions. Simple steps such as providing crèches in offices may do a lot of good but offices have to go beyond these measures and actually work for empowerment of women. Gender violence against women arises when women are seen to be weak. Hence, empowerment of women through education and training on mental toughness will see them perform even when severe challenges arise. Besides, women may perform different roles but those roles should be as meaty, as substantive as the ones men take up. Individuals and organizations that fail to do what they best can will definitely be termed as bystanders and greater criminals. For, as one quote put it 'Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph'. For society to take up gender equality as a collective movement, there has to be coordinated action with strategies and sub-goals laid down for every player. Thus, schools may have to revise their curriculum to focus in a bigger way on gender issues and organizations may even have to design new roles that benefit both women and the organizations. Thus, a focus on gender equality actually broadens the horizons of thinking new activities and new processes that enhance productivity. Greater gender equality helps women; but it helps men and the organizations much more.

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Posted by Sanjay Kumar on https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: A Lot of time is being wasted in discussing patriarchal mindset and many of them suggest increasing awareness and making people gender sensitive. But what I think is - nothing will work unless women fight for themselves. You cant fight for an another person who is not willing to fight. The oppressed person may be in disadvantaged position due to financial and other issues but at the end if they have urge to fight back then the help of others will work

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Posted by Saquib Ali on https://www.facebook.com/americancenternewdelhi: The sensitization has to start early in life right from home ,through school and onto university level.The community is essential in the picture as the family and society have the greatest role to play.The mother ,father and grandparents along with the society play an important role in shaping up the children who grow up to either stop gender violence or help it continue...

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Submitted by Rajat Mondal on https://www.facebook.com/Kolkata.usconsulate/: Violence against women and girls is rooted in gender-based discrimination and social norms and gender stereotypes that perpetuate such violence. Given the devastating effect violence has on women, efforts have mainly focused on responses and services for survivors. However, the best way to end violence against women and girls is to prevent it from happening in the first place by addressing its root and structural causes.
Prevention should start early in life, by educating and working with young boys and girls promoting respectful relationships and gender equality. Working with youth is a “best bet” for faster, sustained progress on preventing and eradicating gender-based violence. While public policies and interventions often overlook this stage of life, it is a critical time when values and norms around gender equality are forged.

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Submitted by Kisalay Mukherjee on https://www.facebook.com/Kolkata.usconsulate/: Spread of education and sense,specially ethics, by observing by own selves and demonstrating in an organised and concerted move not depending on as something optional but as must do.

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When we talk about "Gender Violence" straight away what comes to our mind is "Violence Against Women" , Is it logical enough?? Because gender violence reflects the idea of maintaining structural gender inequalities, it can be from both the sides, but in most of the cases people arrested for violence against women are MEN but it won't be logical enough to say that all or even most men are violent or that women cannot perpetrate such violence because there are cases where wife has hired goons to take revenge from husband & in-laws, framing false dowry case, registering false teasing or harassment case.
But since women are in minority, Comparatively less educated and physically less strong than their male counterpart, socially and culturally suppressed in societies, especially in India become easy victim of male dominance.
From Parental Phase to Old Age Phase women in general passes through various type of violence which we might have never thought of, like, prenatal sex selection; female infanticide; differential access to Food, Medicare and education; Sexual, Physical & Emotional Abuse; prostitution; forced marriages & pregnancy; honor killing; acid attacks; harassment at work and public places; elder abuse and so on. These kind of violence are often fueled by Aggression, Feeling of Dominance, Revenge, Competition and Entitlement, Therefore, the need of the hour is not only to formulate Laws, Policies, Acts or to punish the perpetrator but to help the different community, societies and the system in cultivating Patience, Tolerance, Respect the dignity, honor & Humility for each other through proper parenting, quality education, counselling, awareness campaigns at different levels of the society.
Above everything, we have to learn to respect each other irrespective of biological differences then only we can overcome this syndrome.